After over a year and a half of going to my local support group for pickers and pullers, I’ve become convinced that peer support is a key part of recovery. Being able to talk to someone in person, right in front of you, about your picking is just mind blowing. This disorder of isolation just needs a little bit of light to make a huge difference.

Online support, and texting/messaging can also be valuable, so I encourage you to buddy up if you can. There are lots of Facebook groups, that focus on dermatillomania or other BFRBs. No one should feel alone because they are a picker.

I haven’t been able to attend my support group recently because I have classes on the same night/time. So I really miss seeing all my friends, regulars and even new people. Sometimes I think that I go to meet new people and give them some hope. But I know I still need that social support. I still need to feel less alone.

I’m hoping that organizations like the TLC and CBSN can help in getting people to start their own groups.

canadianbfrb:

Here are some back-to-school tips for any BFRBer who is heading off to college or university! What would you add to the list?

Anonymous Asked
QuestionHi! So I think I might have a form of derma but I am not sure. My form is scratching instead of picking? Like I scratch at my scalp especially when stressed/anxious or bored or sometimes for seemingly no reason and I've scratched it to the point before where it has been red and tender. I've never created a lesion which from my understanding is a part of derma and also I scratch like I said instead of pick so I am not sure if I count. I know that derma is kinda something that is not that well 1/2 Answer
researched yet and has only been recently introduced into the dsm so I wasn’t sure if that was why scratching hasn’t really been included as part of derma yet or whether they don’t mention scratching on purpose? Anyway I am pretty sure I meet all the other criteria for derma except for what I’ve mentioned in my messages. Also do you have any suggestions how I can stop scratching? I was thinking of maybe getting a stress ball or something to play with?? Thank so much for your help! 2/2
Sorry to say, but it’s the same thing. Dermatillomania doesn’t distinguish between picking, scratching, or pulling or anything else. It’s mostly about the damage it does to the skin or to the person’s way of life. It is uncontrollable, and can happen on any part of the body, whether there is a lesion or not, or bleeding or not.
There’s skin biting (dermatophagia) or nail biting (onychophagia) which are both related to derma/skin picking. And of course hair pulling disorder (trichotillomania). So these are all BFRBs, and are closely related to each other, meaning the same kinds of treatments can be used.
Yes, look into stress balls. These fall under the category of fidget toys or office/stress toys or maybe even fiddle toys. Anyway, the point is to find what works for you. Keep looking and buying small things you can hold in your pocket and use those when you are stressed. Sometimes just using what’s in your purse or pocket can be enough to make it through a picking urge.
Anyway, you can read my page on how to stop picking, but the ultimate advice is that therapy is the best way to treat this. So good luck and welcome to the community!

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Anonymous Asked
QuestionHi. I noticed my girlfriend must have some kind of dermatillomania, also she's depressed and dealing with a lot of things, and I always want to be there for her and support and try to help but I really don't know how, of if, to approach this subject. Do you have any kind of advice about how to deal with that? I don't want to be triggering, and don't want to force her into talking to me if she's not okay with doing it, but I want her to notice that I care and love above any kind of trouble. Answer

Well I think if you start out by talking to your girlfriend in a serious discussion, tell her what you wrote in the last half of your last sentence you can let he know how much you care and want her to get help. You cannot make someone get help, or help them without their involvement. But you can tell them how much you are worried about them and how you care and want them to get help.

Obviously, you know her best so you will have to figure out a good time/place or occasion to talk to her. When she is receptive and open. Make sure you are not flip or showing any inappropriate emotions when you have an important discussion like this.

It’s important to tell her that you support her, even if she does not want to get help right now. Tell her you will stand by her. Ask her how you can help, and also what you can do differently.

Outing someone before they are ready or even know that they have dermatillomania can be very distressing for people. So I would tread lightly in this area. You can ask her questions, like, I notice your picking your skin (or whatever behavior it is) and was wondering if you’re feeling anxiety? Or have you ever heard of skin picking disorder?

You can also start off everything by just telling her that it’s okay for her to talk to you about anything, especially if it’s anxiety-producing or difficult to talk about. Tell her you will keep her privacy and confidentiality and just want to help her.

Good luck and thanks for writing!

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.
2. Say “exactly” what you mean.
3. Don’t be a people pleaser.
4. Trust your instincts.
5. Never speak badly about yourself.
6. Never give up on your dreams.
7. Don’t be afraid to say “no”.
8. Don’t be afraid to say “yes”.
9. Resist the need to always have control.
10. Stay away from drama and negativity – as much as possible.
Source: Lessons Learned in Life

get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :) get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :pOther techniques and resources:
Sticker charts, like this post here.
Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.
This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest
Make your own playdough fidget
Silly putty recipe
A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.
Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.
Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.
Spinner rings on ebay
Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :)

get-up-and-recover:

get-up-and-recover:

More fidgets and techniques that I use to help fight derma/excoriation disorder :)
So, after my previous post on fidgets that can be found here I decided to put together another post including more fidgets and techniques. I won’t be going over the fidgets from the other post, so please check there if you want to see some more.
I’m going to be really focusing on giving my skin a break over summer so this is useful for me as well :)
So, as before, from top to bottom and left to right:

1&2. These are a bunch of puzzles I picked up in a christmas sale. The idea is to untangle the two pieces without using force. So if I want to pick I can untangle them all one by one and put them back together and by the time I’ve done all that the urge is usually easier to resist.

3. These are some weird magnet bean things I got on ebay :’) you throw them up in the air and they stick together and make a noise. They’re good to fiddle with and use as a fidget.

4. These are pretty cool because they’re a bit like the baoding balls from the previous post but with magnets in them and spiky. I got them from ebay too. The texture is distracting and helps when I just need to feel some kind of sensation, which other derma sufferers probably understand all too well (:

5. I really should have put this back together before taking the picture but I’m tired. This is another bamboozle puzzle. You can find what it looks like all together if you google ‘wooden bamboozle puzzle’ lol. It’s really fiddly and requires concentration to put back together so it’s a great distraction.

6. My other tangle. This one isn’t as good as the tangle therapy but it’s alright. Less bulky so I can just stick it in my pocket.

7. rubiks cube. Yeah, sort of explains itself, everyone knows what you do with a rubiks cube :p my mum actually bought me this when I was younger and my eczema was really bad. She couldn’t bear to see me scratching, so she was looking for things to distract me.

8. Spray on plaster. This makes it harder for my nails/fingers to grip my skin and i can also pick at this rather than my own skin. I need a few layers of it to make it easier to pick at though.

9. Plasters on my fngers, especially in bed. It makes me pretty grumpy because I can’t get a grip at all which frustrates me, but it works.

10. Hydration. Drinking enough water improves my skin and makes me feel better, so I have less to pick at and I feel like picking less. I don’t like drinking water so lemon slices and tea are a must :p

Other techniques and resources:

  • Sticker charts, like this post here.

  • Lip scrub to gently exfoliate lips for people who are tempted to pick their lips. Make your own using a recipe like this.

  • This whole website is pretty awesome to be honest

  • Make your own playdough fidget

  • Silly putty recipe

  • A recipe for that scratch off stuff that you get on lottery cards. I haven’t tried this yet but it seems like it would be pretty good.

  • Meditation resources. Meditation helps to reduce stress that can cause you to pick. It also increases your self control. Along with many other benefits. Similar benefits could come from other sources, such as yoga as well.

  • Not so much a resource, but finding a hobby that engages you entirely and requires both your hands can help. I draw using my tablet (one hand needed to hold the pen, one needed to press keys for shortcuts) or carve wood. I imagine sewing, needle felting, cooking, painting etc. would all be good. I’m not especially good, but that’s not what matters. While I love reading, I do find that I still absent mindedly pick while I read.

  • Spinner rings on ebay

Please check back as I will be adding more :)

Wow, I’m surprised but happy that so many people have found this useful :)

Anonymous Asked
QuestionI think I might have dermatillomania or something like it. I have been picking scabs for as long as I can remember. Whenever there is a new scab I want to pick it (and usually do) because I know that since it is new it will be easy to come up and I won't have to dig at it. I get a (sickeningly) gratification. I am like "I need to pick this" even though I know I shouldn't and I have been like this ever since I was younger. I have scars all over my legs and arms from picking scabs. I also bite -c- Answer
I also bite my nails and I have raw sore skin around my nails and even as low as the first knuckled from the nail because I pick at the skin and bite at it. I make my fingers bleed a lot from doing it. My mom knows I do and she has asked me why do I do it. I honestly do not know. I want to say I think I started on my nails and fingers after my dad died in 2005. I have been biting my nails though ever since I was a little girl.
My mom would always have to put like peroxide or something or alcohol because when I was like three b/c I would bite my nails to the quick. I have been biting my nails my whole life. But picking the skin around I am not 100% sure when that started. Sometimes I think I do have OCD because there are certain things I have to do to feel satisfied. Idk. I think I need help but then I wonder am I just jumping to conclusions?
Maybe I am being one of those people that think there is something wrong with me when there really isn’t.  Just thinking about it if I told my PCP I think I might be a OCD skin picker, it’s embarrassing. It is embarrassing to see my fingers sore too. Sometimes they are worse than others. I was asked once by someone why my fingers were sore and it was so embarrassing. Idk. I am sorry for sending you such a long message. I just found your blog.
Do not doubt yourself, especially about this. You are not jumping to conclusions. You have a lot of facts to suggest that you may indeed have dermatillomania. (BTW, skin picking is now categorized alongside OCD so it’s possible that people have some tendencies for OCD.)
You wrote a long list of your symptoms which makes it sound exactly like dermatillomania. The shame, the good feeling you feel after picking, the guilt, wondering if people believe you, picking your fingers/nails, scabs everywhere, etc.
You should read more about dermatillomania, and start at the TLC website. They have pages of documents, and articles about skin picking. There is a fact sheet you can print out and show to your mom or physician. You can tell them it’s now an officially recognized disorder in the DSM V, which is used my mental health professionals to diagnose and treat people. This is a significant change and many people have never heard of this or know of skin picking disorder.
So we need to raise awareness in order to help remove the stigma and shame, and have people understand this exists. Did it click when you read a description of dermatillomania? It dd for me. I knew it instantly. It was one of my biggest a-ha moments in my life. This is me, this is my life, I know this. But I also chose to fight it. I didn’t know I’d be this strong, in terms of fighting back and doing this blog. This just happened as a by product of wanting to help myself, and others.
Anyway, thanks for writing and sorry for the delay. Take care and hope you have a great recovery.
Anonymous Asked
QuestionIs it strange that I pick at myself and then eat the flakes/scabs? It's constant. It keeps me up at night and makes it nearly impossible to get ready to leave the house. I'm so embarrassed. Answer

No it’s not strange at all. But your feelings of shame or embarrassment are totally normal. Many people find it difficult to talk about eating scabs or skin/flakes. It’s definitely a taboo subject. I never talk about this out loud, even in my support group, or to my wife. I mean, I may have mentioned it a few times, or talked around it, but I don’t like having discussions about this.

It makes me feel uncomfortable. Even with my anonymity (to most people) I still am thinking about what people will think when they see me and know that I’ve done this. The secrecy and not talking about it is a breeding ground for intense shame. So I still feel this shame. It’s like bonus shame, on top of the picking, then there’s the eating.

So your picking in uncontrollable, that’s the nature of this disorder.  Once you start it’s hard to stop. The key is to stop yourself while you’re picking, and gradually stopping yourself earlier and earlier. Until you are only picking for a few seconds. Or maybe you can stop yourself from picking at all.

I hope you can get some help or at least just some counseling from someone compassionate to your problems. A school counselor or therapist, would be ideal. The shame only goes away when you can speak about it. When you can share the shame with others.

Thanks for writing. You’ve really made me think about this uncomfortable part of myself, which helps me in healing, I believe. Good luck in recovery.