Whether it’s biting your nails or overeating, you can change your behavior. Here are seven steps to breaking a bad habit.
“40 percent of our actions are habits, not conscious decisions”
Worth the read!
I’m going to make a list of reasons to recover in my notebook so I can always remind myself how important this is.
- DBT self soothing techniques
- PTSD Forum: Self Care
- ED Recovery: Self Soothing Techniques
- Addiction Recovery Coping Skills
- 99 Coping Skills: Things to do Instead of Cutting
- Invisible Disabilities Association of Canada: Coping Skills
Meditation & Relaxation:
- Tips to Start Meditating
- 8 Ways to Make Meditation Easy and Fun
- 18 Minute Guided Meditation: Blissful Deep Relaxation
- 1 Hour Universal Mind Meditation
- Guided Meditation for Sleep and Good Dreams
- Guided Meditation and Progressive Muscle Relaxation
- Progressive Muscle Relaxation
- 1 Hour of Nature Sounds
- 1 Hour Rain
- Foundations in Flow Yoga Class
- Heart Opening 30min Yoga Class
- 10min Shoulder Yoga Routine
- 9min Yoga Breathing Exercise (Pranayama)
- Kundalini Yoga Breathing Exercises (3 min)
- Make Origami
- DIY Home Spa
- Nail Art Tutorials
- Chevron Friendship Bracelets
- Glitter Jars
- Learn to Crochet
- Learn to Knit
- Turn an Old Shirt into a Tote
- Easy Sugar Cookies (Vegan recipe here)
- Garland Decorations
That’s a huge issue for pickers. I’ve fielded similar questions lately in my ask, mostly dealing with being lovable or ever having a romantic relationship. All I can say is that it will take time to change how you feel. Including how you feel about yourself. It helps if you’re not suffering from depression, because that makes things much more difficult, so rule that out, or if you have it, work on getting better (through talk therapy or medication).
What you’re asking is how you yourself can feel beautiful. Which is an interesting variation. Because if you can’t feel beautiful how can you accept it if someone else finds you beautiful? You will likely not believe them. Or have intense, constant doubt about your own lovability or emotional commitment to someone because you think they are lying.
I think the best thing to understand about scars and scabs is that they are a temporary manifestation on your face or your body. You have to love yourself more than just your own skin at this point in time. You have to love more than your own physical body and all the “imperfections”. You have to love yourself inside too. You have to understand that you’re an incredibly awesome person, and people should be tripping over themselves to get to know you and like you and be attract to you.
You have to love yourself first, before anyone else can you love you. That’s something you may have heard before, but it’s nevertheless true. Can it happen without you loving yourself? Sure, but you’re going to have a deeper emotional connection if you love yourself first. It will be truer. More meaningful.
How do you work on loving yourself? Stop all that negative self talk, first of all! Even if you don’t verbalize it, you probably have so many negative thoughts about your skin or your self, which wrecks your self-confidence. Controlling your thoughts can be done in therapy, where you learn new ways to look at life, and new ways to control your unhealthy thinking patterns. Accepting yourself as a picker and someone who doesn’t have “perfect” skin will also help.
You will always be beautiful, even if you have scars or scabs on your face. Beauty is something we all have, it’s not just some Hollywood star or model in a magazine. We can have beautiful scars, even if we created them ourselves. Those scars are your way of surviving and dealing with anxiety. Those are your battle scars. You are beautiful with your scars, you just don’t see the beauty in them and in you at this point. That will come.
Good luck with your healing and thanks for writing!
Just a reminder that whilst a perfectly clean diet is good for your health, so are these:
- alone time;
- fresh sheets;
- combing your hair;
- 90s movies;
- letting loose;
- moisturising your skin;
- being anonymous;
- impulse shopping;
- being outdoors;
- having sex;
- lying in bed all day;
- drinking tea;
- listening to your favourite album;
- going out for coffee;
- getting lost in a book store;
I’ve been struggling a lot with my trichotillomania recently and I made this list to help motivate me to stop pulling. Not all trichsters will be able to relate to this, since it varies as to the location of and the severity of pulling, but I put ones down that help for me. As someone with a shaved head, one of my big motivators to stop pulling is the hope that I will be able to someday let it grow without pulling it out as soon as I can. Anyway, I hope that this list helps a couple people out there. Stay strong, and pull-free vibes <3
This is a surprisingly great figit! Just a long screw with a bolt and flick it with your finger and it spins. It’s super emtertaining! My friend was playing with this and I swiped it from him, I need to get my own!
I compiled some personal tactics and crowd sourced DIY remedies for the sads (clinical term) into a mini comic! Enjoy xoxo
So I was sorting out my bedroom the other day and I found this buried in a box of random stuff… Think it’s some kind of fidget toy but have no clue what it’s actually called haha anyone have any ideas? As you can see it can be moulded into quite a few different shapes and it really helps with keeping my hands busy when I want to pick 👍
I believe it is called a Magic Loops
Ahh thank you! I’ve always wondered what they were called 😊